Grief & Living Loss Quick Guide
A short guide to noticing context without assuming every family experiences grief.
Open & print guideABAI Presentation · Attendee Resource Hub
Start with listening.
Build together.
Practical tools for compassionate caregiver collaboration—recognizing grief, understanding family context, and turning respectful conversations into shared action.
Conceptual foundations: caregiver relationships (Taylor et al., 2019); grief-related experiences (Alimohamadi et al., 2024; Coughlin & Sethares, 2017); parent collaboration (Wilson, 2023).
Prepared by Didiana (Didi) De La Osa, BCBA-D
From presentation to practice.
Choose one tool. Try it collaboratively. Ask what helped. Use what you learn to improve the next interaction.
01 / Your resource collection
Tools to bring into the room.
Open a guide to read, print, or save as a PDF. Start with the caregiver’s words and priorities.
12 resources
Grief-Responsive Check-In Guide
Five questions for an intake, transition, or routine caregiver meeting.
Open & print guideCompassionate Communication Checklist
Observable actions to practice before, during, and after a conversation.
Open & print guideBefore You Call It Noncompliance
A context review before interpreting missed practice or attendance.
Open & print guideParent Values & Relationship Interview
Questions that connect family priorities to meaningful goals.
Open & print guideFamily Context & Cultural Questionnaire
A permission-based conversation about the family’s routines and preferences.
Open & print guideParent Well-Being Conversation Guide
A non-diagnostic check-in about support needs and service fit.
Open & print guideCaregiver Interaction Observation Guide
Observe shared routines while respecting choice and context.
Open & print guideValues & Action Reflection
An ACT-informed conversation starter for practitioners with relevant training.
Open & print guideACT Scope of Competence Reflection
A planning aid before adding an ACT-informed activity.
Open & print guideDifficult Conversation Role-Plays
Three brief scenarios for rehearsal and feedback.
Open & print guideSupervisor Observation & Feedback Sheet
Use behavioral skills training to practice caregiver collaboration.
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These newly prepared presentation companions are educational practice aids, not validated assessments. Source articles and books remain with their authors and publishers.
02 / Put it into practice
A conversation you can rehearse.
Use these four prompts as a flexible practice sequence. Follow the caregiver’s lead rather than treating the sequence as a script.
01
Listen
Pause, attend, and let the caregiver finish. Ask what they want you to understand.
02
Validate
Acknowledge the experience they describe. Avoid deciding how they should feel.
03
Clarify
Check your understanding. Ask permission before offering ideas.
04
Collaborate
Choose a manageable next step together and agree on how to review it.
Illustrative role-play / Missed home practice
“I know you want me to practice every day, but by the time we get home, I have nothing left.”
Before responding: what could you ask to better understand the caregiver’s experience?
“It sounds like the end of the day is already demanding. What does that time usually look like? Would you prefer that I listen first, or would it help to think together about a smaller step?”
Rehearse with a partner. Ask whether they felt heard, then repeat with one improvement. In supervision, use instruction, modeling, rehearsal, and feedback.
The four-part conversation sequence and dialogue are newly written teaching examples informed by Taylor et al. (2019), not a named or validated protocol from that article. Rehearsal and feedback draw on behavioral skills training (Parsons et al., 2012).
03 / Continue the learning
The reading behind the practice.
APA 7 references with brief annotations. Links lead to source publications or publisher pages; access terms vary.
Alimohamadi, A., Ghasemzadeh, M., Fooladi, F., Abdolmohamadi, K., Killikelly, C., & Janghorbanian, Z. (2024). Living-loss: A narrative synthesis review of the grief process in parents of children with autism spectrum disorder. Journal of Pediatric Nursing, 77, e97–e107. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.pedn.2024.03.036
A narrative synthesis exploring grief-related experiences in the literature. Use it as context for asking individualized questions, without presuming that a caregiver identifies with grief or loss.
Behavior Analyst Certification Board. (2020). Ethics code for behavior analysts. https://www.bacb.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Ethics-Code-for-Behavior-Analysts-240830-a.pdf
Professional standards relevant to competence, cultural responsiveness, consent, collaboration, and referrals. Consult the code for its actual requirements; the practice aids here are not BACB forms.
Bravo-Benítez, J., Pérez-Marfil, M. N., Román-Alegre, B., & Cruz-Quintana, F. (2019). Grief experiences in family caregivers of children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 16(23), Article 4821. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph16234821
An empirical examination of caregiver grief experiences and perceived burden. Discuss the findings as context-specific evidence; they do not justify assigning grief to every family.
Coughlin, M. B., & Sethares, K. A. (2017). Chronic sorrow in parents of children with a chronic illness or disability: An integrative literature review. Journal of Pediatric Nursing, 37, 108–116. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.pedn.2017.06.011
An integrative review across chronic illness and disability contexts. Helpful for thinking about recurring support needs; its scope extends beyond autism.
Parsons, M. B., Rollyson, J. H., & Reid, D. H. (2012). Evidence-based staff training: A guide for practitioners. Behavior Analysis in Practice, 5(2), 2–11. https://doi.org/10.1007/BF03391819
A practitioner guide to performance-based staff training. Supports instruction, modeling, rehearsal, and feedback; the specific caregiver scenarios and observation sheet here are newly written educational examples.
Taylor, B. A., LeBlanc, L. A., & Nosik, M. R. (2019). Compassionate care in behavior analytic treatment: Can outcomes be enhanced by attending to relationships with caregivers? Behavior Analysis in Practice, 12(3), 654–666. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40617-018-00289-3
A conceptual paper describing relationship skills and ways to teach them. Use it to plan observation, modeling, rehearsal, and feedback; proposed benefits should not be treated as established causal effects.
Wilson, A. N. (2023). The behavior analyst’s guide to working with parents: Acceptance and commitment training for effective parental collaboration in treatment. Context Press. https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648480928/the-behavior-analysts-guide-to-working-with-parents/
A practice book offering an ACT-based framework for parent collaboration. Reading the book alone does not establish competence to provide ACT-based services.
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